I Love Slow Dancing With My Husband - Romantic Love ❤️

Whatever happened to the art of the slow dance? My first slow dance was in the 7th grade. 

You know, those dimly lit rooms, the bass low and heavy, and the DJ playing that 90s R&B cut that had everybody pressing up close with their person. Back when “Can You Handle It” by Usher or “Any Time, Any Place” by Janet would come on, and suddenly everybody had a "boo thang" for the night.

You'd be slightly tipsy, moving in sync with someone, hands wandering respectfully (or not), and if the chemistry was right... well, let’s just say it was a done dada.

And if you ever lost or out of rhythm, he’d pull you in close and gently guide your hips until you moved in harmony with him, syncing as one.

But these days? It’s all poppin’, clappin’, and twerking. Don’t get me wrong — a little hype moment is fun. We love a good Meg or City Girls anthem to turn up. But when the entire night is one big bounce session with zero intention of a vibe shift? Chile... the romance is MIA, and the vibe is in distress.

Let’s Talk About It: What Happen To R&B and Slow Jamz

Once upon a time, R&B reigned in the club. You didn’t even need a section — just a strong cologne and some rhythm. If “Nice & Slow” or “Fortunate” came on, it was a wrap. 

He’d send a drink or two your way—sometimes even one for your homegirl, just to keep the vibe right. And once you were feeling it...

He’d grab you by the hand and lead you to the dance floor, sway like y’all had a future, and fall into that feel-good groove. It was sensual without being raunchy, romantic without being corny, and personal without being performative.

Remember when couples used to say, ‘This is our song,’ whenever it came on? They’d play it at their wedding, too.

You'd be slow wining with you man in front of grandma. 

And make no mistake your parents would be dancing too. 

Now? The DJ would get boo’d for trying to slow it down too much.

We’ve become a generation that treats intimacy like a pop-up ad: click out fast and keep scrolling. 

But back in the day, there was art in the way he held your waist tight while Ginuwine sang in the background. 

It was about chemistry, not choreography. It wasn’t about who could drop it the lowest — it was about who could hold that eye contact without blinking.

Getting Tipsy and Falling in Love (Temporarily)

Do y’all remember when getting tipsy meant slow sipping a dark drink and finding that one person to dance with for the rest of the night? That “bae” or “boo thang” for the evening, where the energy felt like a relationship beginning to happen?

What happened to throwing on that freak 'em dress and shutting it down?

It wasn’t always about hook-ups — sometimes, it was just the fun of feeling close to that someone or it was the place where you met that special person that end up becoming you husband or wife. 

You might have even gotten their number or not. Going out with that special someone felt like vibes. Just “us” for tonight.

Afterwards? A slow stroll to the car. Maybe a lingering hug. Maybe more. Maybe not. But you went home feeling seen, desired, maybe even respected. It was grown. It was sexy. And it was missed.

Where Do We Go From Here?

Honestly? We can bring it back.

Start at home — play those old-school jams while you're cooking. Bring back the R&B playlists for date nights. If you host a party, dedicate a 30-minute or hour set to nothing but slow grooves.

 

Light a candle. Pour up. Remind people that touch and connection still matter.

Ladies, put on that body oil, that silk robe, and let Maxwell play. Fellas, stop being scared to sing in her ear — it still works. Let’s bring back the slow wind and the slow grind.

Let’s remember that intimacy doesn’t always scream — sometimes it hums softly in your ear, with the lights low, while Tank tells the story for you.

Romance In Our Music Shouldn’t Be On Mute

We might be in a turn-up generation, but deep down, everyone still wants a slow song with the one who makes their heart skip a beat. So, next time you’re out and the beat drops... maybe don’t run to the floor to twerk.

Maybe look around, find your person, your dance partner, and pull them close.

Let’s make slow dancing sexy again.

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