Anointed To Be Matriarchs - Woman You're Called To Build Nations

There’s a difference between being desired and being truly called — between being seen and being sent by God. Too many men and women are operating outside of their assignment and calling for what looks good. When you operate outside of your divine assignment you miss the mark. And you deprive the world of your divine gift and what they would have had you been in the right position.

I like to think of this as a “girlfriend spirit” versus a wife anointing.

This isn’t about rushing into marriage or chasing a title — it’s about understanding your spiritual identity and walking in divine alignment.

The Girlfriend Spirit: Connection Without Covenant

The Bible never uses the term girlfriend, but its characteristics are clear throughout Scripture — a pattern of attachment without assignment. It’s a counterfeit connection that feels emotional but isn’t rooted in purpose or its purpose was always designed to destroy. Make no mistake everyone knows the story of Delilah. And everyone has a Delilah assigned to them.

Delilah (Judges 16) was connected to Samson, but to bring him down. She played her part well, using intimacy and pleasure to work against his God-given purpose. All Samson wanted was her presence and prominence.

Perhaps Samson’s mistake was desiring closeness with a woman who didn’t understand covenant—seeking connection from someone who didn’t understand partnership. Her relationship weakened what God called strength...

Then there’s Potiphar’s wife (Genesis 39). She represents seduction, selfishness, and temporary desire. She wasn’t interested in covenant or destiny — only gratification. Her pursuit of Joseph was rooted in lust, not love; manipulation, not ministry.

That’s what the girlfriend spirit does — it mimics connection but lacks divine covenant. It’s rooted in validation, attention, and emotional performance instead of purpose, fruitfulness, and alignment.

A person operating under this spirit often finds themselves in cycles of “almost” — almost chosen, almost secure, almost seen. But God doesn’t call His daughters to almost. He calls them to abundance.

The wife anointing is not about being married — it’s about carrying the spirit of covenant. It’s a divine mantle of favor, fruitfulness, and covering. When a woman walks in this grace, her presence brings peace, order, and multiplication.

Look at Ruth. She wasn’t chasing Boaz — she was positioning herself for purpose. Her loyalty and obedience positioned her for favor. When she said, “Where you go, I will go…” (Ruth 1:16), she was displaying covenant character. And she was faithful even when it wasn’t easy. That faithfulness attracted God and provided her with divine recognition. Although some may have perceived that at first she was being punished. Because her husband died and she lost everything. She was forced out of her home and even her country.

They tried to force her back. But she remained faithful and kept her promises unto the Lord. And Naomi told her when it was time to marry.

And then there’s Mary, the mother of Jesus (Luke 1:38). When the angel told her she would carry the Savior, she said, “Be it unto me according to Your word.” That’s submission to divine assignment — the essence of a wife anointing. She carried Jesus as divine before and after His full manifested as savior of the world.

The wife anointing is bigger than a marriage — it’s a mantle of divine stewardship. It’s the grace to carry what others can’t and to multiply what others neglect.

A woman with this anointing doesn’t just think about herself — she thinks generationally and about her neighbor. Those around her.

She considers what her decisions will do to her home, her community, family, friends, and her legacy. Before she moves, she asks, “How will this affect the entire house I’m building?” Her life is not led by impulse but by insight. She doesn’t operate selfishly — she operates strategically.

The wife anointing is the spirit of a matriarch — a builder, a nurturer, a stabilizer. Her influence doesn’t end at her front door. It overflows into her neighborhood, her church, her workplace, her nation. She becomes a pillar of community and culture — raising standards, shaping values, and birthing movements.

Her service is sacred. Her presence is a form of community service. When she prays, it covers generations. When she mentors, she multiplies wisdom. When she gives, she builds systems. When she speaks, she preserves dignity.

The wife anointing carries — meaning she sustains, uplifts, and holds things together when others crumble. And it multiplies — meaning whatever she touches expands: peace, purpose, and prosperity.

This is the anointing that restores order to families, cities, and nations. It’s what makes a woman not just a wife — but a wise woman, a builder, a matriarch, a mother of nations. She's not out to destroy, but build.